Recovering from Grief
What is Healing Your Grief?
Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list also includes many others; retirement or job loss, moving, pet losses, financial and health issues, among them.
Most simply defined, grief is our physical and emotional reaction to a loss that we have experienced. It is a very normal and natural feeling. It usually manifests as a broken heart, broken trust, or some kind of a change in our life that we were not prepared for. What makes it even more painful is when we feel that the loss or change has occurred outside of our control. Recovery does not mean we will not feel sad, in fact we will learn that sadness and the feelings we experience with grief in general, is an acceptable and necessary way to experience the loss, and a very important step in the process of healing. We have to change some of our old thinking and make new choices that come from the heart. In my experience as a Massage Therapist, I have noticed that a tremendous amount of physical dysfunction that is not easily explained by a trauma or injury, can be traced back to a grieving situation that has not been addressed or certainly not resolved. I have spent an enormous amount of time and energy in my own personal quest for healing and recovery. I have been involved in 12 step programs. I have read everything I could find on the subject of grief and recovery. I also have read Dr Phils books, books by Caroline Myss, Gerald Jampolsky, Neale Donald Walsch, Gary Zukav, Jane Middelton-Moz, Don Migeul Ruiz, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, and many more. I even went so far as to take the training given by the Grief Recovery Institute to teach their method of grief recovery. These have all given me tremendous insights and information that has been very helpful. However, even with these insights and information I was not able to fully recover until I put them all together and came up with a change in some of my beliefs and a series of steps and actions that have helped me achieve a true and lasting recovery. I am not a Therapist, however I can teach others and walk with them through the steps and techniques that I have used to gain this recovery and serenity.